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Love your Setbacks

Updated: Sep 23, 2021

Looking at the title of this type of love will certainly cause you to have a few questions arise. Why on earth would I love a setback? Isn’t a setback a negative situation? Isn’t a setback a stuck situation? I wanted to address this topic because I understand the emotional chaos associated with feeling like you’re stuck in a location, geographically, and financially. How should you approach these feelings of being stuck? First, let’s be honest it’s not a good feeling. In fact, it can almost feel like suffocation which cultivates anxiety. Challenge yourself to ignore the squeeze and truly dive inwardly to understand a deeper version of yourself. When external forces are pressuring you by their intimidation of not being able to thrive or live, how do you respond? I’m a woman of prayer, my personal beliefs are rooted and grounded in learning how to adapt the principles of faith. Immediately, Jeremiah 29:11 states,” For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.”

I turn toward the Word of God that reminds me of what God has declared and decreed over my life. My faith mandates I place precedence over God’s promises as opposed to life’s setbacks. In this life, we will always face obstacles, and possibly setups, traps, and accusations, but there must be a point of internal reflection in all these things. When you have a mind that understands how to shift your focus on things above and not on things of the earth, you have the power to reclaim the promises of God. Perhaps the season of setback is a temporary challenge to see your reaction towards the situation. Throughout life’s journey, discouragement is evident. There will always be a time where you feel disappointed about something not happening the way you planned, but I challenge you to examine the situation again. Could it be that in this time, God is demanding your undivided attention to take it to Him in prayer. Perhaps, in this season, you may need to revisit some areas of your life where improvement is necessary.

Perhaps, you could be dragging unnecessary baggage from a prior season that tests your declarations of healing.

Healing from all the traumatic events in your life is essential in moving your life forward. Pursuing new things when you failed to address the former can confuse. Personally, I’ve had to revisit some very deeply rooted trauma in my life in the past 3 years. I was in a relationship that was dysfunctional causing the trauma from my own issues to surface. I elected to take the time to reflect, journal, pray, fast, and seeking out therapeutic solutions to aid in my healing journey. By taking this time to reflect, I’ve gained clarity on my life’s purpose. . I can choose to implement the positive principles rather negative coping mechanisms. No one goes through life without making mistakes, making bad judgments, or failing a few times. Embrace those moments along your journey and take time to reflect on how you managed to come out of the situation. Reflection is an effective tool that can be used to ensure you move around the obstacle and not remain stagnant because of it. Sometimes, the obstacle is just a pause and not a permanent stop, and other times, it’s a way of saying just let it go.

The moments of internal reflection may also encourage you to apply prayer, daily affirmations, positive self-talk, or even simply just a time to rest.

In our society, rest is often labeled as lazy and unproductive. The truth of the matter is not everyone’s life comes together perfectly just because they put effort to build it. In fact, the setbacks potentially cause many to abort their missions and run back to what they are familiar with doing. See the setback for what it is and reflect on some other situations where you successfully overcame and managed to thrive. Timing is also a critical component to evolving into someone new and improved. Don’t be so critical of yourself in these difficult times because you’re already sensitive. Learning how to use patience as a time of restoration to prepare for the next transition in life can be an effective solution. Times of uncertainty can cause erratic emotional decisions that are detrimental to your success. If you can avoid it, it’s best not to make a final decision in these places of pressure. Take Time and don’t rush.

Philippians 4:6, “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made know to God. ”

Verse 7 continues

"And the Peace of God, which surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. "

We can’t always control a situation, but we can change our perspective and shift our mindsets about how we manage it. Essentially, you are reclaiming your belief that you can overcome the setback. Loving your setback can be a means of motivating your creativity to work through a challenge or to know when to let it go. Setbacks are motivators that can be embraced and not shunned.

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